Our times are shaped by infantile forms of love, and even those who talk of love rarely seem to have more nuanced perceptions of it.
But understanding love as linked to loss, and as a developmental path, can help us personally and culturally today. Love can then be known to grow through loss and struggle, and the loses and struggles of today might come to be seen not as threats but as a path that lead to what I call three-dimensional and even four-dimensional love: the awareness that reality itself is love, which can be aligned with.
It understands William Blake’s insight: “He who binds to himself the joy, does the winged life destroy. He who kisses the joy as it flies, lives in enternity’s sunrise.”