
Personally, I am a long-standing supporter of Peter Tatchell. He is modern Britain's equivalent of an old testament prophet, challenging the high priests of democracy as to what they really worship, and I'd urge my compatriots to contribute to his work from their pockets via his foundation.
However, I think he's wrong on gay marriage and civil partnerships. He's written a couple of articles in the last week or so arguing that a system of sexual apartheid exists in the UK, because gay people can only enter into CPs, and that offends the principle of universal equality.
Apartheid is a strong word, but then he's a prophet, and the prophet's power rests in strong words. However, my sense is that CPs are actually a real opportunity: it's good that they are distinct from marriage, for all that the political shenanigans behind their creation was far from commendable.
This is for the simple reason that I feel there are differences between gay and straight relationships. And I speak as someone in a CP. So, whilst the legal rights should be the same for all people committing to each other in a marriage-like way, the broader nature of the institutions that support such commitments gain from plurality. It provides space for the couples concerned to grow in their commitment in different ways.
How are gay couples different? The obvious one is that CPs are made by individuals of the same sex. This means that they don't share in the history of opposite sex relationships, the history that is transmitted in the institution of heterosexual marriage, with its overtones of property transfer and possession. You might say that CPs are a chance to commit to an experiment in committed friendship.
Gay people have a kind of freedom here. CPs clearly borrow from marriage - not least in the intention of permanence, faithfulness and stability - and so the distinction between the two is not absolute. Nonetheless, by virtue of being of the same sex, gay people have an opportunity to reconceive institutionalised relationships. They don't have to buy into the entire tradition of marriage and instead have the chance to contribute to a new conception of what it is to have a commitment publicly recognised, free of the marital elements that most now find oppressive.
Incidentally, this does not mean I'd advocate ditching marriage, and opening up CPs to straight couples too. I think that would be a kind of denial: for all sorts of complex historical and psychological reasons, straight couples must embrace and/or wrestle with the institution of marriage. It would be neither desirable nor possible to do away with it overnight. But gay people can contribute from the sidelines, as it were, to the reshaping of marriage which is already well underway.
To put all this another way, the language of equality can be overdone, when it demands absolute and unequivocal sameness for all people. We are not the same, though in the limited sphere of the law, people should be treated as the same. You might say it's the accidental genius of Britain's CPs to provide for that legal equality whilst also allowing space for wider differences. It's a risk when deploying the rhetoric of human rights that humanly valuable differences can be smothered.
In fact, I'd have thought that individuals like Peter T might have supported that difference. After all, he doesn't want gay marriage for himself, and I know other lesbian and gay campaigners who before CPs came along, condemned marriage as a patriarchal institution. There's something not wholly resolved in their demand for it now.



















